Drawn the Six of Wands in a feelings position? The short answer: this person feels proud of you, confident in what you two have, and happy for other people to know it. Below you’ll find what the Six of Wands as feelings means from a crush, a partner, or an ex, what changes when the card lands reversed, and how to read the imagery and the Jupiter in Leo energy behind it.
The Direct Answer: What the Six of Wands as Feelings Says About You
Someone who shows up as the Six of Wands feels like they have won something by being with you. Not in a possessive sense. More like the feeling a person gets when they walk into a room with you and notice they are standing a little taller.
Three emotional notes dominate this card:
- Pride. They are proud of you and proud to be associated with you. They talk about you to friends, family, and coworkers without being prompted.
- Confidence. They feel sure of their place in your life. There is no agonising over “does she like me” or “what did that text mean”. They believe the connection is working.
- Visibility. They want the relationship seen. This is the person who introduces you by name at a party, posts the photo from the weekend, or tells their mother about you before the third date.
If you asked “how does this person feel about me?” and the Six of Wands came up upright, the answer is that they feel good, they feel certain, and they are not hiding it.
Card Imagery Decoded for Feelings
The Rider-Waite-Smith Six of Wands shows a man on a white horse, a laurel wreath on his head and a second wreath tied to the wand he carries. Five figures walk alongside him holding their own wands, and the whole party moves forward together. Read each element through an emotional lens and the card becomes very specific about how someone feels.
| Image | What it says about their feelings toward you |
|---|---|
| Rider on horseback | They feel decisive and in control of their own heart. No dithering. |
| White horse | Their feelings are clean and uncomplicated. Not tangled up in guilt or an ex. |
| Laurel wreath on the head | They feel personally honoured to be with you. You are a point of pride. |
| Wreath on the wand | They want to display the relationship, not keep it private. |
| The crowd with raised wands | They feel supported by the people around them. Friends approve of you. |
| Everyone moving forward | They see this going somewhere. The feeling has direction. |
| Open, pale sky | Optimism. They expect good things from the connection. |
Notice one thing the card does not show: no one is looking back. The Six of Wands as feelings describes someone who has made up their mind and is not second-guessing it.
Jupiter in Leo: The Astrology Behind the Card
In the Golden Dawn system the Six of Wands is assigned to Jupiter in the second decan of Leo, roughly 2 to 11 August, and titled the Lord of Victory. Jupiter expands whatever it touches. Leo rules the heart, the stage, and the need to be seen and adored.
Combine them and you get feelings that are big, warm, generous, and a little theatrical. A Jupiter-in-Leo person in love does not do understated. They plan the surprise birthday dinner. They tell you they are proud of you in front of other people. They feel affection as something to be expressed outwardly rather than quietly held.
This matters for reading the card. When the Six of Wands represents feelings, the emotion is sincere, but it is also performed. Upright, the performance matches the feeling. Reversed, the performance is covering for something the feeling lacks. Keep that split in mind as you read on.
Six of Wands Upright Feelings: Position by Position
How He Feels About You
A man represented by the upright Six of Wands feels like being with you reflects well on him, and he enjoys that. He is proud to introduce you. He feels respected by you and respects you back. There is a competitive edge here too: he may have pursued you knowing other people were interested, and winning your attention feels like an accomplishment he is not embarrassed to admit.
He also feels confident enough to make moves. If you are waiting for him to define the relationship or make a plan, this card says he feels ready to do it. The hesitation, if there is any, is not on his end.
How She Feels About You
A woman shown as the upright Six of Wands feels admired, and she feels that you are worth admiring in return. She likes who she is when she is with you. She has probably already talked you up to her closest friends, and their approval has reinforced how she feels.
She also feels secure. She is not scanning for signs you are pulling away, because she believes the relationship is on solid footing. Expect her to be affectionate publicly, to want to be seen together, and to feel genuinely pleased when you succeed at something.
Feelings From a Crush or Someone New
For a potential connection or a situationship, the Six of Wands as feelings for someone means attraction mixed with admiration. They are impressed by you. They have put you slightly on a pedestal, which feels wonderful and also deserves one caution: pedestals are for statues, and real people eventually step off them. Enjoy being admired, but let them see you as human early so the admiration can mature into something sturdier.
Practically, this card says they want to be seen with you. If you have been wondering whether they are interested or just friendly, the Six of Wands leans firmly toward interested, and openly so. A good test: do they include you in their public world, their friend group, their plans? If yes, the card is confirming what you already suspect.
Feelings in an Existing Relationship
In a committed relationship the upright Six of Wands describes a partner who feels you two have come through something together and are on the other side of it. If you recently resolved a conflict, moved in together, got through a hard year, or hit a milestone, they feel proud of the pair of you as a unit.
They feel appreciated and they feel like appreciating you. This is a strong card for mutual recognition: both people seeing the effort the other puts in. It also hints at readiness for the next public step, whether that is meeting families, an engagement, or simply telling the world you are serious.
Feelings From an Ex
When you ask about an ex’s feelings and the Six of Wands appears upright, they still think highly of you. The relationship did not leave a bitter taste. They remember it as a good chapter and they may feel some pride in how they handled the ending, or in how far you both have come since.
Does it mean they want to reconcile? Sometimes. The card shows forward movement and public confidence, so if they do reach out it will be direct and unembarrassed, not a 2am “u up” text. But the Six of Wands can also mean they feel victorious about having moved on. Check the surrounding cards. The Two of Cups or Ten of Cups nearby points toward reunion. The Eight of Cups or Three of Swords nearby says they feel good about the past but are not coming back.
Six of Wands Reversed Feelings: Position by Position
Reversed, the rider falls off the horse. The confidence is still visible on the surface, but underneath it there is doubt, a hunger for applause, or a bruised ego. The Six of Wands reversed feelings almost always involve a gap between what someone shows and what they actually feel.
The core reversed meanings:
- Insecurity dressed as confidence. They feel unsure of your interest and overcompensate with swagger or indifference.
- Need for validation. They want you to tell them they are impressive, chosen, special. When the praise stops, their mood drops.
- Feeling overlooked. They believe you do not notice their efforts, or that you give more attention to friends, work, or someone else.
- Feeling hidden. They sense you are keeping them private and it stings.
- Ego clash. The relationship has become a quiet competition over who is more successful, more wanted, more right.
- Performative love. The relationship looks great from the outside and feels thin from the inside.
Reversed: How He Feels About You
He feels unsure where he stands and hates feeling that way. Pride stops him from asking directly, so he may act cool, pull back, or drop hints that he has other options. Underneath, he wants reassurance that you see him as a prize. If you have been dismissive of his wins or not shown up for things that mattered to him, he has noticed and he is nursing it.
Reversed: How She Feels About You
She feels under-recognised. She has put effort into the relationship, or into looking good, or into making you proud, and it does not feel like it registered. She may compare your relationship to others she sees and feel it comes up short. There can be embarrassment too: she may feel awkward about how the relationship is perceived by friends, or worry she is more invested than you are.
Reversed Feelings From a Crush or Someone New
Reversed in a new connection, the Six of Wands says they like you but their ego is in the way. Perhaps they are afraid of rejection and are waiting for you to make the move so they do not risk looking foolish. Perhaps they are enjoying the attention more than they are enjoying you. Watch for love bombing that cools fast, or for someone who is mainly interested in how you make them look.
Reversed Feelings in an Existing Relationship
This is the “Instagram couple” warning. The relationship may be heavily curated for an audience while one or both partners feel lonely in private. Your partner might feel that posting the anniversary photo has replaced actually celebrating it. Or they feel the opposite: you never post them, never mention them, and it makes them feel like a secret.
Ego conflict is the other common expression. One partner’s success has started to feel threatening to the other. Praise has gone one-directional. Someone is keeping score.
Reversed Feelings From an Ex
Pride is blocking the door. Your ex may still have feelings but cannot bring themselves to admit it because reaching out would feel like losing. They might also feel humiliated by the breakup, especially if it was public, and want to prove they are fine. Reconciliation is possible with this card but only if someone is willing to put their ego down first, and the card suggests they are not there yet.
Is the Six of Wands a Yes or No in a Feelings Reading?
Upright: yes. This person feels positively about you, and they feel confident enough to act on it. If your question was “do they like me”, “are they proud of me”, or “do they see a future”, the upright Six of Wands is one of the more straightforward yeses in the Minor Arcana.
Reversed: a weak no, or a yes with conditions. The feelings may exist but are tangled up in pride, doubt, or a need to be admired. Expect the relationship to stall until the ego issue is named.
Six of Wands Next to Its Neighbours
The Wands suit tells a story around this card, and reading it in sequence sharpens the interpretation.
The Five of Wands before it shows conflict, rivalry, and competition. If the Six follows a Five in your spread, this person’s feelings have moved from tension to resolution. They may have been competing for your attention, or you two may have argued, and now they feel the matter is settled in their favour.
The Seven of Wands after it shows someone defending a position. Six then Seven suggests the person feels proud of the relationship now but anticipates having to protect it, perhaps from disapproving family, an interfering ex, or distance.
The King of Wands carries the same fire-sign confidence at full maturity. If he appears with the Six, the person’s feelings are not just proud but protective and leader-like; they want to take charge of where this goes.
Love Advice From the Six of Wands
Upright: Meet their confidence with your own. This card rewards people who show up fully, accept the compliment, and say what they want. If they are proud of you, let them see you being proud of them too. Public affirmation matters to a Jupiter-in-Leo heart, so a word of praise in front of friends lands harder than you might expect.
Reversed: Stop measuring the relationship against an audience. If you are the one feeling overlooked, say so plainly instead of hinting. If your partner is the one chasing validation, offer genuine recognition for things that matter rather than for things that photograph well. And if pride is blocking a reconciliation, decide whether being right is worth more to you than being close.
A Three-Card Spread for the Six of Wands as Feelings
Pull three cards and lay them left to right.
- What they are proud of in this connection. The quality or moment they value most.
- What they want recognised. The effort or feeling they need you to notice.
- Where the confidence is fragile. The insecurity hiding behind the display, or the thing that would knock them off the horse.
Read the Six of Wands as the anchor above all three. If it came upright, card three is a maintenance note. If it came reversed, card three is the main event.
If you prefer journaling, try these prompts instead:
- When was the last time this person showed they were proud of me in front of others, and how did I respond?
- Do I want this relationship to be seen, or do I want it to be private? Does my answer match theirs?
- Where in this relationship have I been keeping score, and what would change if I stopped?
FAQ
What does the Six of Wands mean as feelings for someone?
They feel proud, confident, and publicly committed. They see you as a win, they enjoy being associated with you, and they are not hiding the relationship from anyone.
What do Six of Wands reversed feelings mean?
The person feels insecure beneath a confident front. They may need constant validation, feel overlooked or hidden by you, or be caught in an ego standoff. The affection usually still exists, but pride is distorting how it comes out.
Does the Six of Wands mean someone likes you?
Yes. Upright, it is a clear sign of attraction mixed with admiration. Reversed, they likely still like you but are too proud or too uncertain to show it cleanly.
Is the Six of Wands a yes or no card?
Upright, yes. Reversed, lean toward no or “not yet”, because the outcome depends on someone setting their ego aside.
What does the Six of Wands mean for an ex’s feelings?
Upright, your ex remembers you fondly and feels no bitterness; they may be open to reconnecting and will do so directly if they choose to. Reversed, they may still have feelings but pride or embarrassment is stopping them from acting.
Which planet and sign rule the Six of Wands?
Jupiter in Leo, the second decan of Leo (around 2 to 11 August). Jupiter’s expansiveness and Leo’s heart-centred need for recognition explain why the feelings behind this card are warm, generous, and openly displayed.
How does the Six of Wands differ from the Five and Seven of Wands in a love reading?
The Five shows competing or arguing, the Six shows feeling victorious and secure, and the Seven shows defending the relationship against outside pressure. Together they map a progression from conflict to confidence to protection.
